“As experts on one another, they can detect when the other has an itch, and they know exactly how to scratch it to provide relief. Often it takes just a smile or a look or a grasp of the hand to calm each other’s primitives and communicate the support that is needed. They get their needs met in ways that would not be possible if each were alone; they do this for each other because they can and because it makes them more attractive–and even indispensible–to one another. Nor does anyone outside their bubble do what they do for one another, and as such, their world is a safer, more protective world than the one that exists outside their bubble.” -Stan Tatkin, Psy.D. in Wired for Love
A loving couple bubble is work but it is worth the work. Like a child who is has parents who know what we need, so can an adult couple-ship can meet each other’s attachment needs with contentment and belonging to each other.
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