Tag Archives: couples
Knowing Each Other
“Asking a partner, ‘What’s wrong?’ is a bit like asking ‘Who are you, again?’ As partners, we should know. Others may not know and are not required to know, but we most certainly are. That’s our job, and that’s why … Continue reading
How Vulnerable is Your Partner?
“It is important for you to know your own vulnerabilities, and it is even more important to know your partner’s. Knowing your partner’s three or four bad things takes the guesswork out of what distresses him or her. Not knowing … Continue reading
Personal Issues in Relationships
“We all have a handful of issues with the particular power to make us feel bad. These issues typically originate during childhood, and we carry them into our adult relationships. “For instance, you have been picked on as a child, … Continue reading
Relationship Vows
“When I see partners in a successfully maintained couple bubble, one standout feature is their ability to care for, influence, and manage one another, much the way expert parents do with their children. Both partners seem to have read and … Continue reading
Safe and Nurturing Relationships
“When I see partners in a successfully maintained couple bubble, one standout feature is their ability to care for, influence, and manage one another, much the way expert parents do with their children. Both partners seem to have read and … Continue reading
Unapologetically You
“Supporting principles to guide you: “1. Discover your partner. … What relationship best describes your partner? And while you’re at it, what style best describes you! As I mentioned before, please resist the temptation to use this typologyas ammunition against … Continue reading
Broken in Relationship and Healed in Relationship
“You and your partner should become familiar with each others’ relationship styles. “We get to know our partner fully in order to become competent as managers of our partners in the best way. Be competent managers, I mean partners who … Continue reading
Couple Therapy
“What I learned confirmed Bowlby’s message that patterns of relating created by attachment, separation, and loss during the first few years of life become fixed and impact all future relationships. It also confirmed that couples’ narratives (i.e. their presenting problems) … Continue reading
Couples at War
Couples at war have certain tell-tale behavior signs. Some partners get very excited, while others become slow, sleepy, or even collapse. Whichever posture they take, partners at war say and do things that are decidedly unfriendly. Each time they fight, … Continue reading
Holding to it
“The couple bubble is a pact between partners in which the quid pro quo is to burden one another with the tasks of devotion and caring for the other’s safety, security, and well-being. This mutual burden determines the degree of … Continue reading
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